We Are the Weavers, We Are the Web

It is clearly fall. As I have noticed every year of my life, this seems to be a particularly busy season for our arachnid family members. Unlike many people, I have always welcomed spiders. This could be due at least in part to my grandmother, who when we were terrified by Daddy Long-legs, told us “Never kill spiders, they are good luck”.

Although I certainly am a bit less respectful of their privacy since I was bitten by a poisonous one in 2008, they continue to fascinate me. For the last two weeks, each day my car has been adorned with intricately patterned filaments leading from the bushes several feet away to the door handle and side mirror. Wiping away the threads I wonder how they accomplish such a daunting task everyday.

My only comparison comes from the few times I have lost large amounts of un-saved ‘brilliant’ writing on my computer. The first instances were devastatingly shocking.  It took a couple of losses to figure out that often the re-written material was better, although I still complained bitterly. What do you suppose happens each time they discover their work is missing? Does it go quicker the next time? Do they build better, stronger, or more carelessly with each additional destruction? Do they ever think as I occasionally have, why bother, or what’s the use?

Continuing along the path of mourning and grief, there are now glimmers of energy that occur with some regularity, though still relatively short-lived. It feels a bit like two steps forward, one back. In what ways am I similar to the spiders who continue to rebuild day in and day out? Where and under what circumstances do I lose heart and give up before the job is done?

Perhaps the weavers of these incredible structures are superior beings who have already figured out the secret to happiness. Does their constancy come from understanding that change is the only constant in life? Have they learned how to cope, manage, welcome, embrace, and learn from inevitable losses without assigning positive or negative qualities to ‘reality’? If everyone and everything, from mosquitoes to volcanoes has a natural life cycle that runs a continuum from conception to death and beyond, does our success come right down to our ability to tolerate loss in one form or another with our creativity, curiosity and will to continue intact?

As for the web itself, does our true nature – peaceful, loving, gentle, strong (whatever our individual strengths) become more intricate and beautiful as we continue to be ‘woven’ by ups and downs? Do we glisten and quiver with receptivity, even knowing we too may be swept away? Are we constantly rolling out the same reflexive patterns with little in the way of flexibility or innovation?

Just for today, whether weaver, web, or a bit of both, may your creation be inspired by your unique version of majesty. Blessings and love to you all. z

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24 Responses to We Are the Weavers, We Are the Web

  1. lapetinaa says:

    I just don’t know how you do it, Beth. Another brilliant post. I’m happy to know that you are getting some of your energy back. You will be unstoppable when you have it ALL back! xxx

  2. Robert Vanderwaall says:

    Dear Beth,
    I love it when you write about nature and Amy’s comment was spot on about you being unstoppable. Whether spiders and their webs, people of Japan and the Tsunami or even the Navajo sand painters, knowing things can and will change day to day, we continue to build and rebuild because giving up is not part of our natural world. Great job. I’m hungry for more please.

    Robert v.

    • Thanks for the uplift Robert. It is true that continuation is part of the natural world. We are such capable, able, worthwhile, loving, lovable and amazing creatures. I can’t help but wonder how different the world might be if we focused some of our incredible perseverance to improve the quality of life instead of squandering so much energy maintaining systems and practices that are hurtful or destructive to human beings and our planet. At any rate, I hope to accommodate some of your hunger as we begin to explore what nature offers that might contribute to greater flexibility of body, mind, emotions, and spirit. Great comment. z

      oh, and, I am hugely grateful to you, Amy and others who are doing such an incredible job of holding the vision for me while I continue to heal.

  3. EllaDee says:

    Clever post. Spider-like is a great thing to aspire to. I assume, not being spider psychic, that spiders do their thing instinctively – only us humans question ‘why’, so much less energy to expend accepting ‘is’ and getting on with it. Really, what is else there to do. I’m always happy to have a huntsman or insect eating garden spiders in or around the house. I agree with your grandmother, spides are good luck, as is walking through a web, and some believe house spiders are vehicles for souls of the departed to spend some time with us…

    • I always look forward to your wonderful comments. You offer such fantastic insight and fresh perspectives. That said, this may be a contender for the coolest comment you have ever written to me. When you mentioned the huntsman and insect eating garden spiders you reminded me that I spent a few months writing the first few chapters of what I thought was a mind blowing book called, Life with Spiders, which somehow I had temporarily forgotten about. More importantly, you have provided much for consideration when you say “some believe that house spiders are vehicles for souls of the departed to spend time with us…” HMMMM. Perhaps that explains a good deal about why this particular years spider fascination has come with a sense of melancholia? I will give that some thought, and pay closer attention to the tiny brown spindly one that has greeted me at the coffee maker the past few mornings.

      • EllaDee says:

        Thanks 🙂 Spiders & I have always been friends. I have a terrible tale about my ex’s birthday party where an uninvited guest decided my house spider needed removal – unfortunately for the wannabe ‘pest removalist’, I was armed with a mug of hot coffee. Only physical intervention on the part of others’ prevented me from killing him!

      • hahahaha, lol just doesn’t cover it …. aah you crack me up. I am sorry for your loss, if it was indeed one. Good story – thank goodness for that physical intervention. After my bite I must admit I did encourage a few re-locations but I have since reconsidered that position.

  4. Sylvie says:

    Just beautiful, I admire you as always.

  5. Glennie Bee says:

    Beautiful, wise thoughts, as ever.

  6. ijwoods says:

    While in Australia last week I ran into an old friend, a doctor. Her husband, who she adored and had five children with, died of a brain tumor about 5+ years ago. I only saw her after his death a couple of times, and though I expressed my sympathies I really had no idea what she may have gone through and avoided any lengthy conversations. I hadn’t seen her since Kris left. When she saw me she came close, looked into my eyes and the only words she said (cheerfully) were, “it gets better”. Short, sweet and effective. That put a smile on my face.

  7. I find spiders rather fascinating, except those that are on my porch, which I convince myself are positioning themselves to drop into my hair, eek!, lol.

    (ps: I’m so very sorry for your loss.) Peace. ~Beth

    • Yah, no matter how large the fascination there is a definite ick factor to creepy crawlers landing in our hair!!!! Thanks for the laugh… Thanks for taking the time to read and comment on my loss and my post. Healing slowly but surely. Looking forward to hearing more from you. Beth

  8. smacken2008 says:

    Ahhhh. Mankind is so fascinated with spider webs. There must be something wired in us that both fears and loves spiders and their webs

  9. smacken2008 says:

    Ah. Mankind has always been fascinated with spiders, snakes. Even mythical things like dragons and faieries etc. They all hold some sort of inborn genetic connection to us. The dinosaur was gone 50,000 years before man existed. Yet man invented the dragon. How can this be? It can only be genetic memory from our predecessors. What then the snake and spider.
    Great to see your post. Xo. S

  10. A beautiful post, Beth, is all I can say. Hope you are doing great.

  11. when we lose some good writing we should try to rewrite it even better! thats the only joy we can derive from it.

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